Marriage, they say its not just coming together of two individuals, there is much more to it. Some say marriage is a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness.
Everyone would dream of gettin that unconditional love and support for better or worse from their spouse.Let’s consider the following instance,
Smriti and Akhil were a couple very much in love and had got into the wonderful bond of marriage with a lot of dreams about their life together just a few months back. Everyone were very happy thinking it was a jodi made in heaven and many blah blah things. But, fate had other plans for them. Soon after Akhil's health started detoriating. Tests revealed that he was HIV positive!!! Later Smriti too was diagnosed with the same. It was learnt that Akhil had been infected during a blood transfusion way before marriage but since he was in the incubation period he was asymptomatic!!! Both Smriti n Akhil's life was spoils for no mistake of theirs!!!
Now, doesn’t the thought of gettin an HIV test (ELISA) before getting into the most special commitment of our life come into our minds? Is it not necessary? They say successful marriage is not merely finding the right mate but through you being the right mate!!! So at least for the sake of that special person, for the sake of your successful relationship together cant the two of you get a HIV test done together? I don’t say only the guy should or only the girl should but both of them together!!!!!
Many might or rather would disagree saying that it is not at all practical!!! Many will be of the opinion that asking your partner before marriage to get a test done would make him/her feel that you do not trust him/her!!! While some others might say that they don’t need it as they trust their partners more than themselves!!! Well, it’s definitely not about trust. It will just be a conscious decision which u both would make for each other!! By you yourself being ready to undergo the test you would be respecting your partner, not hurting their ego and at the same time giving him/her the assurance that mutual trust is not coming into the picture!!!
Tell me how many of us would undergo blood tests routinely?? at least once in a year?? We wouldn't have even bothered about it unless something goes wrong!!!
Akhil never broke Smriti's trust. He was completely innocent. Had they spoken to each other before marriage and undergone the test akhil could have saved his love's life and at the same time he could have controlled his situation not allowing it to worsen!!!
Even now many would have a doubt of whether they should go ahead or not...its true that a girl asking her to be husband to get a test done can be very dangerous. It can make her life miserable if that guy takes that question the other way!!! Almost in 90 to 95% of cases this becomes very difficult!! (Strangely, though most of us very well educated!!!!)
It would be remarkable if the government legalizes getting an HIV test done before marriage!!! But why denounce the government and wait for it to make it legal?? If 90% disagree the remaining can agree to it and be an inspiration!! Those couples who are ready to get (or those who have got) the tests done before marriage can encourage other couples to get it done... Thus surely though slowly we can achieve the desired goal!!!!
I hope all of us will at least give it a thought!!! , Keep in mind; no one is having rights to spoil someone’s life knowingly or unknowingly…!!
