Should Govt legalize getting an HIV test done before marriage...??  

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Marriage, they say its not just coming together of two individuals, there is much more to it. Some say marriage is a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness.


Everyone would dream of gettin that unconditional love and support for better or worse from their spouse.Let’s consider the following instance,

Smriti and Akhil were a couple very much in love and had got into the wonderful bond of marriage with a lot of dreams about their life together just a few months back. Everyone were very happy thinking it was a jodi made in heaven and many blah blah things. But, fate had other plans for them. Soon after Akhil's health started detoriating. Tests revealed that he was HIV positive!!! Later Smriti too was diagnosed with the same. It was learnt that Akhil had been infected during a blood transfusion way before marriage but since he was in the incubation period he was asymptomatic!!! Both Smriti n Akhil's life was spoils for no mistake of theirs!!!


Now, doesn’t the thought of gettin an HIV test (ELISA) before getting into the most special commitment of our life come into our minds? Is it not necessary? They say successful marriage is not merely finding the right mate but through you being the right mate!!! So at least for the sake of that special person, for the sake of your successful relationship together cant the two of you get a HIV test done together? I don’t say only the guy should or only the girl should but both of them together!!!!!

Many might or rather would disagree saying that it is not at all practical!!! Many will be of the opinion that asking your partner before marriage to get a test done would make him/her feel that you do not trust him/her!!! While some others might say that they don’t need it as they trust their partners more than themselves!!! Well, it’s definitely not about trust. It will just be a conscious decision which u both would make for each other!! By you yourself being ready to undergo the test you would be respecting your partner, not hurting their ego and at the same time giving him/her the assurance that mutual trust is not coming into the picture!!!


Tell me how many of us would undergo blood tests routinely?? at least once in a year?? We wouldn't have even bothered about it unless something goes wrong!!!

Akhil never broke Smriti's trust. He was completely innocent. Had they spoken to each other before marriage and undergone the test akhil could have saved his love's life and at the same time he could have controlled his situation not allowing it to worsen!!!

Even now many would have a doubt of whether they should go ahead or not...its true that a girl asking her to be husband to get a test done can be very dangerous. It can make her life miserable if that guy takes that question the other way!!! Almost in 90 to 95% of cases this becomes very difficult!! (Strangely, though most of us very well educated!!!!)

It would be remarkable if the government legalizes getting an HIV test done before marriage!!! But why denounce the government and wait for it to make it legal?? If 90% disagree the remaining can agree to it and be an inspiration!! Those couples who are ready to get (or those who have got) the tests done before marriage can encourage other couples to get it done... Thus surely though slowly we can achieve the desired goal!!!!


I hope all of us will at least give it a thought!!! , Keep in mind; no one is having rights to spoil someone’s life knowingly or unknowingly…!!

Precaution is better than cure (But there is no concept of cure for this)..!

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4 comments

I have got it done already for a LIC policy :)

It should not be legalized but yes there is no need to feel bad if a person demands this test to be done

January 30, 2009 at 12:47 AM

Hmmm.. Good, so you mean to say you are certified ;) ? ha ha ha

Nope, it’s not like that varun. I feel like it should be legalized so that everyone will fallow it, which will save many lives. Otherwise there may be chances of gettin it right? And moreover if a gal/guy asked for it, people used to look at in other way and they may create different meaning for it. If government made it mandatory, then everyone will fallow it and there will be no game of blaming.

January 30, 2009 at 11:48 AM

I feel its very important.The govt shld legalize the ELISA test.
Though ppl are educated they are least bothered abt HIV test and all. The govt should make strict rules and make it compulsory all over the country so that the innocents won get infected wit HIV.

February 1, 2009 at 7:35 AM

THANX FOR NICE BLOG.ONCE UR CLEAN CHIT FROM HIV TEST BY URSELF OR BY GOVT.LAW .IT'S GOOD .BUT WHAT ABOUT NEXT DAY,WEEK,MONTH,OR YEAR OR FOR WHOLE LIFE .IT'S NOT QUESTION OF HIV TEST BUT OF SAVING INNOCENT LIFE .YES ,I DO AGREE THAT BY TEST WE CAN HAVE CLEAR IDEA ABOUT BOY/GIRL WHO R GOING TO MARRY ARE SAFE .BUT WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF IT WILL TAKE PLACE AFTER MARRIAGE?WHO IS RESPONSIBLE ? WHO WILL SUFFER ?LOTS OF QUESTIONS BUT ANSWER IS ONLY ONE PRECAUTION AND SPREADING PROPER EDUCATION AND KNOWLEDGE CAN SAVE VALUABLE LIFE .THE WHOLE WORLD IS ON THRESHOLD OF ISSUE LIKE THIS .SO PPL LIKE U ,ME OR WHO HAS CONCERN FOR MANKIND AND GOVT.HAND TO HAND TOGETHER CAN DO LOTS OF WORK BY SPREADING AWARENESS AMONGST PPL,SOCIETY AND SAVE INNOCENT VALUABLE LIFE .WHY WE HAVE HIV ?PPL TAKE RISK OF HIV FOR FOOLISH REASON LIKE FUN ,CHANGE ,MODERN LIFESTYLE,OR CHECKING THEIR SEX ABILITY BEFORE AND AFTER MARRIAGE ,GO TO PROSTITUTE OR BROTHEL HOUSE HAVING UNSAFE SEX OR DRUG BY INFECTED SYERINGE OR BLOOD TRANSFER WITHOUT CHECKING HIV WHAT A MEAN REASON ,MINOR MISTAKE AND LIFE IS IN DARK.SO PPL PLEASE BE ALERT SAVE UR AND UR NEAR DEAR ONE'S LIFE BY SPREADING AWARENESSS TO SOCIETY.

February 5, 2009 at 8:49 PM

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